Today most parents are concerned about health and welfare of their children. This can be natural normal concern. However some parents worry about varies thins like, how is their child developing? How is the emotional well-being of their child? Most parents compare their children with other children and against prevalent social norms. If they feel their child is in any way different in they may seek help. At first parents discuss their concern with a family member or friend, then a family physician or a school counceller. If they problems are progressive, serious, and persistent or are a hurdle in development, they need to ask for help.
The depressed child
Not only adults, children and teenagers also can get depressed. World over there is rise in adolescence depressed up to 20 percent adolescence can be depressed. Parents must be aware of signs in their children such as persistence sadness, lack of enjoyment in favorite activities, increased activity or irritability, persistence physical complaint like headaches and stomachaches, frequent absence from school, poor academic performance, persistence boredom, low energy poor concentration, eating or sleeping pattern changes and spending more time alone. Depressed children may talk of ending their lives or abuse alcohol and drugs to feel better. Stressful life events like failure, love failure parental separation, physical or sexual abuse can precipitate depression. Early diagnosis and treatment are essential. Depression in child and adolescents needs psychiatric help. The treatment is in the form of medication and therapy.
Going to schools is usually an exiting and enjoyable event for young children but to some it brings fear and panic. Refusal to go to school often begins after a vacation or holidays or a brief illness. It may also follow a stressful event such as death of relative, change in school or change in house.
Children may excessively cry and cling to mothers. They may complain of headache, stomachache just before leaving for school. These symptoms subside after the child is allowed to stay home, only to reappear next morning before school. Refusal to go to school often begins after a vacation or holidays or brief illness. It may also follow a stressful event like death or relative change in school or change of house.
Children with separation anxiety have difficulty going to sleep, have unrealistic fears of animals, ghosts, being alone in the dark. Persistent fears, if not attended to, can lead to long-term serious development problems. Parents should not hesitate to seek professional help. Most children can be successfully helped with counseling.
Learning disabilities
A common reason for poor academic performance for children is specific learning disability. A child with learning disability is bright, can follow instructions, concentrate and is good to home. Yet child is not able to read or write without mistakes. Some children also have trouble sitting still and paying attention. Learning disabilities are caused by nervous system defects in receiving, processing or communicating information. These children are likely to get frustrated and develop low self-esteem.
When your fears and anxieties have attained to such a stage that you remain intensely fearful and anxious all the time even without any apparent cause then it is not a bad idea to resort to some medical help. medical treatment has some side effects also hence it should be used in a restricted manner only when no other thing works to calm down the patient. Tranquilizers are drugs that are used to calm down an anxious mind .
They act as cerebral depressant. The commonly used tranquilizers are benzodiazepines,.temazepam etc. these drugs have largely replaced the older drugs of which the most important were the barbiturates . the long term use of drugs cause addiction . hence the use of these drugs should be under close medical supervision. Beta blockers are group of drugs used to reduce anxiety by affecting nervous system in a different manner. These are not addictive drugs .they don’t act on the brain but on the autonomic nervous system . beta blockers reduce the activity of sympathetic nervous system.
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phobia is an exaggerated wand unreasonable fear about something .phobia are different from fears in the severity of reaction .with phobias the level of emotional changes and the level of physical changes of the body is abnormally high. The most important ingredient of phobia is avoidance . a phobic individual is acutely conscious of the possibility of coming into contact conscious of the possibility of coming into contact with the thing of which he has phobia. mainly three types of phobia’s . specific phobia’s, social phobia’s , agoraphobia .there are many causes which can leads to the different phobia’s .if a person specially in his childhood has undergone any extremely frightening traumatic experience likely to develop a phobia against that particular situation or against that type of person or whatever it is. If we told repeatedly by reliable individuals that something dangerous we may develop a phobia against it .the treatment for phobias will vary depending on the nature. Systematic desensitization is a technique which teaches the phobic person how to relax when facing a serious problem. flooding is another method. It involves prolonged exposure to the feared object .modelling involves observing non fearful persons in contact with the feared object , and then imitating the person by the fearful person.
Fear is a condition of stress which increases the stress mechanism of the body. Body finds your fear as some kind of threat and gears up all body functions that you can take sudden action for fight .body can’t realize your fear is due to any real physical threat on your life or it is just an imaginary fear , a product of your doubtful and wavering mind. Physical reactions in two cases will be same. The important changes occur in the body in a state of fear gives below
The heart rate increases, the stomach produces too much acid. The breathing rate increases. Liver releases more sugar into blood stream. Brain become more active. The adrenal gland increase the production of adrenaline hormone.the reproductive system stops working, digestion slows .the stomach muscles tighten up. The pupils in the eyes are dilate. The skin sweats and there is decrease in skin resistance .blood pressure increase, the immune system stops working . tendency of blood clotting increases. Hand and body tremors. Red blood cells increases in the blood. Stomach upset and diarrhea may occur. The hair stands on its end.
Epictetus said that
“ it is not the death which is a problem but it is the fear of death which is creating a real havoc”
Acharaya Rajneesh said that
“ observe yourself dying . see death coming to you and going . if you can so observe the death from a distance you have conquered death . death is now your slave. Now you will die a conscious death and not the mindless death like and animal”
Fear of death is not different from other fears of life. The passing out from the body is never that painful as you imagination about it. It is impossible that anything so natural so necessary and so universal as death should ever have been designed by providence as an evil to mankind. In fact much of the fear of death comes from the fact that man always fears the unknown. Your imagination always makes a mountain out of a molehill and distorts the reality .the more accurately you understand death the more free you will be from the fear of death. after death we are just the same as before except that you don’t have a physical body. The death is not only painless but often accompanied by a feeling of relief from the heaviness of the body , a natural transition never to be dreaded.
Continued and irrational fears affect the behavioral of the person significantly. His behavior is no more remains healthy. Some of the common tendencies during fear described below. Escape is one of the behavioral responses to fear. The person try to avoid and remains far from those situations which he fears. This type of behavioral responses only reinforces the fears of the victim more and more instead of helping him to come out of his self made covering . fear may cause some consumption disorders. The fear may affect the behaviour of eating , swallowing , smoking , drinking, overeating, under eating taking drugs etc. some persons are overeat as a response to anxiety and fear and may become overweight . this may cause dissatisfaction with his appearance and gives strain to brain and heart. The fear may leads to severe loss of appetite and under eating .drinking and smoking are also related with fear. The tendency of drinking and smoking increases considerably in moments of anxiety and fear. The fear and anxieties decreases the mental alertness and concentration in our day to day life. Our memory weakens . our sense of humour will lost.
On the surface level several causes of different types of fears can be pointed out but if we go deeply we can convert all these cause into the following root causes ..if we are depending on external objects and people for out existence and feeling of self worth , we then generate fear by anticipating the loss of that object . without a habit of dependency there could be not fear. We would then allow objects and experiences to come and go without trying to cling to them. But when we feel the deep dependency on something we are inevitable afraid of losing it . whatever we feel that we must have is what we fear losing. Feeling of separateness is one of the root cause of our fear. Our sense of separateness from each other and from god. We remain unaware of our natural interconnections with each other and experience ourselves as individual egos separate from each other .whatever we se as separate from ourselves inevitable becomes a source of fear .Disbelief in god and cosmic order is also another major cause of fear. If we don’t believe that there is a ruler of the world who is running world according to some cosmic order and divine laws .feeling of self inadequacy is also create fear. Many people think that they can’t do what others do. The don’t have enough confidence and capability and consider themselves as worthless persons.
Here are some quotes by famous personalities to get rid of your fear,stage fear etc and to become a smart person in society by gaining mental strength.
Franklin d Roosevelt
First of all let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless , unreasoning , unjustified terror which paralyses all out efforts to convert retreat into advance.
Gandhi
Fearlessness is possessed more often by the weak the poor the not so health and the not so learned . it is a spiritual force . it is a characteristic of the sour and not of the body.
Austen Riggs
Fear after hate is the most destructive emotion . it breaks down the nervous systems and undermines the health. It also renders happiness and peace of mind impossible . fear gives rise to worry and those who worry are living in hell
Beryl Pfizer
It is not the work that kills men it is worry and fears. Work is healthy you can hardly put more upon a person than he can bear . worry and fear are like rust on a machinery . it not the revolution that destroys the machinery but the friction due to rust.
Bacon
We invite what we fear because fear is and acknowledgement of weakness and protection that offers easy invitation fro invasion by the things we fear.
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Improve your mind power
Do you want to be successful ? definitely the answer is yes, you have the desire and now here are the way by with you can achieve these goals . some of the fear we are facing is lack of memory and concentration, speaking difficulty, conquering fear , etc.
How to remain ever happy is an honest attempt to analyze these problems and give effective solutions. For developing a positive approach , you can follow these steps, eat healthy, cultivate optimism, keep working even if upset.
